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起因是，今天看到了这样一张图。图本身很有爱，而下面配的文字也十分有趣：
Protective and cuddly companion now.
Will scare the hell out of future boyfriends.
想象一下一只巨大的、声音低沉的马士提夫犬跟在MM身边，虽然其实它性情温顺至极、能做出的最可怕的事不过把你从头到脚舔个遍，也足够吓跑MM的一部分潜在追求者了吧。
想到这里觉得很好笑。谁知继续往下看，见到有人评论说，可惜，它大概是活不到MM能够谈恋爱的那一天的。
如同一个美好的童话故事刚刚讲完，合上书，现实里并非所有王子公主都能永远幸福地生活在一起。也许残酷，但是，又有什么办法呢？
狗的生命原本就比人类短许多，而Mastiff又属于狗中寿命短的，通常只能活6到10年。图中这只狗走过彩虹桥的时候，也许这个小MM才刚刚懂得什么叫死亡，甚至也许她还不懂事。她会为失去了一个伙伴而难过，然后继续长大。多年后将会牵着她的手的男朋友并不会晓得，早在他们相识之前很久，曾有一只傻乎乎的大狗一心一意地守护着她，甚至远比她未来的男朋友更忠诚可靠。
狗常常让我惊讶。不仅仅是那些在家中备受关爱的宠物狗。我见过那些被抛弃被伤害被虐待过的狗，它们并不沮丧并不怨恨，它们为shelter里工作人员的每一次抚摸每一点关注而快乐，它们为每一次散步每一点小事而兴奋，它们对人类的每一丝善意都报以十倍的回应。它们不会让自己为过去所累，它们不会因为未知的命运而忧虑重重，它们不会因为曾经的伤害而变得计较变得不敢轻易付出。
我不知道有多少人能做到这些。
也许你会说，这是因为它们傻。但聪明真的是我们的借口吗？
马利的主人在书的最后写道：
"Was it possible for a dog-any dog-to points humans to the things that really mattered in life? I believe it was. Loyalty. Courage. Devotion. Simplicity. Joy. And the things that did not matter, too. A dog has no use for fancy cars or big homes or designer clothes. Status symbols mean nothing to him. A water-logged stick will do just fine. A dog judges others not by their color or creed or class but by who they are inside. A dog doesn't care if you are rich or poor, educated or illiterate, clever or dull. Give him your heart and he will give you his. It was really quite simple, and yet we humans, so much wiser and more sophisticated, have always had trouble figuring out what really counts and what does not."
这是他们活着的时候天天让我们看到的。可是不止如此。我从前很喜欢的一个演员Rupert Everett在自传中讲到他的狗Mo的死时，这样写道：
"It's a strange and extraordinary thing, life with an animal. When one comes into your life, it is so young, so full of energy, and you are old by comparison. You take the role of the father. But between then and his death there is a turning of the tables. Soon you become brothers. As he gets older, you become younger, so that by the end he is a grandfather and you are a thoughtless child. In denial of his great age, you force him to do things, to keep him going, and he looks at you with the eyes of an elder, sitting in the shade of the village oak. 'Come on, Mo!' you say, and he sighs and lumbers to his tired paws. He's your grandfather but he still obeys instructions."
Mo死后Rupert甚至曾经表示不愿再养狗，因为太怕最后的痛苦。这点我可以理解却并不同意。依然是可以从狗身上看到的：它们从来不为未来可能会失去而在此时就放弃。
回到开头的那张图，当小MM长大了，恋爱了，狗不会再在她身边。可是在记忆中，在相片里，都有它存在过的痕迹。那是小MM美好的幼年时光的一部分，永远不可能被剥离。
于是我想起一个从rescue groups领养狗已经十几年的人，她收养的许多只狗中已有三只不在这个世界上了。我记得她的一句话：
"We don't know how long we will have them, but having them is worth the pain of losing them."
2009-06-19 11:00
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